It's Just a stage......

For those of u who know me.. know last years school experiences was far from pleasant. Hannah was in a blended VPK class with 17 other children in a portable... we quickly found out that was not the best environment for her, she was having a very difficult time keep her hands to her self. She would not participate in class room activities and was listed as " off task" 90% of the time. I had countless meeting with the teacher but things did not change.  In my eyes she didn't want to understand Hannah may have a different way of learning and understanding. So she spent a lot of time in "time out" which didn't work.(still doesn't).  
Last year was just a waste..... 

But this year I was hopefully optimistic things would be different,better,less stressful... we placed her in an IVE (individualized varying exceptionallities) class with 10 other kids, all with some kind of special need. A small safe class that wasn't to over whelming. After the "adjustment " period ( the 1st 2 weeks of school)  we felt as though we would have a better year. The hitting and kicking would stop. She would be more willing to be involved , stay out from under the tables , and enjoy each day packed full of learning. We hoped the social skills would start to emerge, and she would understand how to be a good friend.  In the last 2 months we have not done so well. Things almost feel like they are getting worse! I feel as though I made a bad decision for her.... I'm her mom, I'm suppose to help her grow, not make it more difficult. As a parent it's devastating,  I know there are worst things but right now this is pretty big. You get that feeling as though you are failing your child. I ask my self a million questions... Is she unhappy? Is she getting sick? Does she feel intimidated?  Can she just not express her feelings? Maybe its because her communication isn't 100%? Maybe last year was more damaging than we thought? What if I would have been a stay at home mom?  What could have I done differently? Maybe I am doing something wrong?  Maybe this, maybe that. The list goes on and on. 

The only difference  this year is her teacher is willing to ask for help. She has arranged the behavior specialist and social worker to draft a plan, set up meeting with us and the school so we are able to all approach the issues in the same way so Hannah will understand and have the same behavior modification plan at school and home. She is willing to listen and she wants to make it better. She want to help us solve the issue(s).  But right now there doesn't seem to be an answer..... I know some people say its a stage but is it, or something more?

Liz